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DKG Practice/Program

Public embarrassment is never the sensitive choice. Rather than embarrassing
the member on a public news feed, the “critic” could have messaged or
called the eager state organization officer to collect the information and
then nicely told her she could present it to the executive board. Always ask
the person directly and in a positive manner to avoid ego deflation.

Key Women Educators’ Takeaway
As a sensitive DKG member, we should not complain about someone but
go directly to her and assist her with her next project. If you hear something
negative about an individual, keep it to yourself. Discreetly investigate whether
the information is true or not, and do not stir up innuendo about the person.

Vignette 3

A woman with a walker is at the back of the room at a
state organization meeting and has never moved forward to
speak to anyone. No one knows who she is or her chapter
membership details. Officers and chairs have asked around,
and no one knows her, but she looks vaguely familiar. She
has not been to a meeting in years. Most members leave
her alone, although a few do move somewhat close and
gently talk to her about her chapter and if she would like to
participate. The woman agrees to come closer and participate
if she can stay a comfortable distance from others. The members learn from her
that she was once active in her chapter and at the state organization level and that,
after years of issues, she is ready to renew her relationships in Society activities.
While moving out of a pandemic that limited our activities for almost 2
years, we cannot assume that individuals are ready to rush back to “business
as usual.” Some individuals do not feel that they are up to attending every
meeting in person. They may have lost their previous stamina or mobility, while
others may have lost their will to meet in public due to health concerns. Others
may not feel comfortable in a room of new members they barely know.

Key Women Educators’ Takeaway
Tolerance, equity, and sensitivity are important now more than ever.
We need to remain open to others who may look at things differently
than we do and remember that the reasons they take a particular action
may not be their first choice, but they believe it is their only choice.

Are You a Sensitive DKG Member?
Reflect about how others might see you in the six qualities that follow.
1. Are you a member who respects personal space?
You are cognizant of and respect the fact that others may not feel comfortable
in any situations where groups may be in proximity. You realize your opinion
is not the only one concerning setting, as you are respectful of the choices of
others. You remember to contact members to ask how to proceed in the future
so that they feel comfortable. You always respect the personal space of others.

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